We all go through things that are not fair, you can’t stop life from happening to you but you can choose how you respond. if you hold on to the hurt, you go on dwelling on it then your opening the door to bitterness.
When your bitter it affects every area on your life. Bitterness poisons your attitude to were you see things in a negative light.
Bitter people don’t have good relationships they’re easily offended, they jump down to your throat to the smallest thing, it’s not you it’s the bitterness coming out.
You may have a good reason to be bitter, something was unfair, but holding on to it is only going to make it worst. steal your dreams, rub off your joy, bitterness can keep you from your destiny.
There are some people that are bitter over what happened 30 years ago, bitter because they were mistreated growing up, bitter because a relationship didn’t work out, you have to let it go, God see’s what’s happening, He knows what was not fair, He knows who walked away, and He knows how to make it up to you. He knows how to bring you up better.
Let it go, and trust Him to be your Vindicator.
The longer you hold on, the harder it is to get rid of.
The more you dwell on it, the more you re-live it, the more you let it bother you, the deeper it gets planted.
The key is Forgive Quickly.
Let go of things you don’t understand quickly.
When the questions come, “why did this happen? This is unfair”. When you feel the bitterness take rout right then, “God I’m turning this over to you, I know your my Vindicator, I know you make my wrongs right, you said you’ll give me beauty to this ashes”.
Bitterness is always knocking at the door. Just like someone says something to try to make you look bad to other people, just a little offense, just a small seed. If you ignore it no big deal. but if you start dwelling on it, start thinking how you can pay them back then that little seed will begin to take root and before long it will grow and pollute other areas of your life.
That’s why it’s said in Hebrews, “Make sure there’s no root of bitterness springs fort and causes trouble and many become contaminated by it”.
Notice it refers to Bitterness as a root, of course you can’t see the root. It’s hidden on the ground, but a bitter root, produces bitter fruit.
If you have a root of bitterness it will contaminate your life.
Proverbs says “guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life”.
One of our most important responsibilities, is to keep our hearts pure.
Life is too short to live offended, not forgiving, bitter over what didn’t worked out.
We have to guard our hearts, it’s easy to let what’s on the outside get on the inside.
It takes discipline to say “I’m not going to dwell on that offense”, “I’m not going to go around feeling sorry for myself for something that did not work out”,
We only have so much emotional energy each day, It’s not an unlimited supply, holding on to a grudge is wasting valuable energy that keep you from your dreams, your goals, your destiny.
Quit letting what’s on the outside get on the inside.
Start guarding your heart. 💕