What Will Be

You and I have something in common. We live in a mixed up, tarnished world and we have never known anything different. Adam and Eve, however could remember what life was like before the curse. They could recall the world as God intended it to be – free of death, hardship, unemployment and illness did not exist. No one questioned God’s creative power or His plan for human relationships.

The world we have inherited resembles God’s perfect garden only slightly. To quote C. S. Lewis, “This is a good world gone wrong, but still remains the memory of what ought to have been”.

Fortunately, the cloudy memory off what the earth should have been is also a prophetic glimpse into eternity. There, just as Adam and Eve walked and talked with God, believers will see His face and serve Him directly. There will be nothing between God and us. “No longer will they be any curse”. (REV 22:3). There will be no sin, no fear, no shame.

The past and it’s consequences may cast a shadow on today, but believer’s destiny carries the promise of something better – life in a place as perfect as Eden.

– Jennifer Benson Schuldt

One day God will put everything right.

Intelligent people deal with Toxic people

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Life can be pretty stressful at times. We have bills appointments,overfilled schedules, and random unfortunate events which we have no control over. Then there’s the icing on the cake…Toxic people.

For some of us we deal with toxic people on a daily basis and they can be difficult to avoid. Navigating around a toxic person or their conversations is a tedious skill, but a few people have mastered it. They are known as emotionally intelligent.

Of course, it is never easy to deal with a toxic person. Their overly dramatic attitudes, lies and manipulation tactics can drive a person insane if they let it.

Practice and patience are two very useful tools when dealing with someone you would rather avoid, but it does get easier with time.

Behind the science states that there are 6 ways on how emotionally intelligent people deal with toxic people:

  1. Avoid all unnecessary interactions — the most important thing you can do for yourself, is not participate in the madness. in order to do this, you have to avoid toxic people as much as possible. If you don’t have to see them, talk to them or communicate with them in any way then don’t. Plain and simple.

  2. Set boundaries — it is essential to set boundaries. Not just for dealing with toxic people, but in order to have a healthy relationship on any level there needs to be boundaries. Emotionally intelligent people know that it is impossible to please everyone, and that it is okay to say “no”. Helping someone with an issue or a problem they are going through is one thing, getting stuck in a whirlwind of gossip and negativity is quite another.

  3. Don’t take part in negativity — negativity follows toxic people around like storm cloud of doom. They can’t say a word without it releasing a lightning bolt of anger, hostility, jealousy, or resentment. Toxic people will try everything to get you to join in-even emotional manipulation. Emotional intelligent people know better than to fall for this and instead of appeasing the other party, they simply smile and walk away, or let the other person know that they aren’t comfortable discussing whatever the topic or person of choice may be.

  4. Don’t take it personal — emotionally intelligent people know that the actions of others have nothing to do with them personally, most of the time, if someone acts a certain way towards you, it’s because they are projecting themselves, or more specifically, their issues. Toxic people will try to push your buttons and get a reaction out of you, which is why it is so important to keep your emotions at bay. When they realize they are wasting their time, they will eventually give up. After all, it’s no fun to play a game you can’t win.

  5. Learn from past encounters — the best way to prepare yourself for what is to come, is to learn from what has been. Emotionally intelligent people take the experiences and altercations they have had in past with toxic people, and use them to navigate around future conflicts.

  6. Practice Self love — working on self-love and self-care is how emotionally intelligent people stay strong. They know that part of staying mentally fit and increasing confidence is taking care of  yourself and appreciating for who you are.

It’s not a easy task and it takes a dedication, but what greater cause is there to dedicate yourself to than self-improvement. (iheartintelligence.com)

You have a defender!

We all have people that come against us. Make negative comments, tries to discredit us, or belittle us. In human nature we got to get in there and try to straighten them out and prove to them how they’re wrong.

We think we have to defend ourselves after all that’s our reputation. But the problem with this approach is as soon as you get one person straighten out, three more will pop-up.

There will always be somebody that’s against you. Somebody that’s trying to make you look bad.

If you’re constantly trying to defend yourself, you’ll get distracted fighting battles that you’re never supposed to fight.

It’s easy to get baited into conflict. Thinking “did you see what they said about me on social media? I’ll show them who they messing with”. Do you know how much energy it’s takes to pay somebody back, trying to prove to them that you really are a nice person? You are spending emotional energy that you need for your dreams, for your goals.

Here’s the key, you don’t have to defend yourself, God said He will defend you, He will protect your reputation. Quit worrying about the negative comments, those are all distractions. That’s the enemy trying to bait you off-course so that you’ll waste your time and energy involved in battles that doesn’t matter.

You may be upset because you are a good person and what they say about you is not true, it does not matter how good you are, how loving you are, kind and understanding. Somebody’s not going to like you. Somebody’s going to discredit you.

Just like what happened to Jesus, when He was here on earth He went around healing the sick, encouraging those who feel down, He did nothing but good. But He was falsely accused and misunderstood.

How did He defend himself?

How did He protect His reputation?

1 Peter: “even though He had never sinned or done any wrong, He did not retaliate when He was insulted. He suffered, He didn’t threaten to get even. He left this case in the hands of God”.

Have peace, enjoy life and leave the case in the hands of God.

We spend so much time trying to defend ourselves, trying to prove to people who we are and worrying about what they think. We have to put our reputation in God’s hands.

God can vindicate you better than you can vindicate yourself. You don’t have to retaliate, don’t have to try to pay people back and convince them to change their mind.

The truth is some people are never going to be for you, no matter what you do they’re not going to like you. Their intent on misunderstanding you, they don’t want to see your point of view. They will not give you the benefit of the doubt. Don’t go 5years frustrated because they’re negative towards you. Don’t engage in a battle that you are not supposed to be engage in.

It’s time to leave that case to the hands of God.

Quit worrying about what they think, quit getting all rolled up how you can retaliate or how you can pay them back. As long as you’re defending yourself then God will step back, He will let you do it your way.

But when we make this decision, God I’m turning this over to you. I’m not going to spend my life worrying about what somebody is saying, wasting my energy trying to change their mind, upset because they don’t like me. God I know you are my defender and I know you are fighting my battles. That will be the time God goes to work.

When they try to push you down, God will lift you up.

When they try to make you look bad, God will cause you to look good.

You have a Defender!

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-by Joel Osteen

OVERCOMING BITTERNESS

We all go through things that are not fair, you can’t stop life from happening to you but you can choose how you respond. if you hold on to the hurt, you go on dwelling on it then your opening the door to bitterness.

When your bitter it affects every area on your life. Bitterness poisons your attitude to were you see things in a negative light.

Bitter people don’t have good relationships they’re easily offended, they jump down to your throat to the smallest thing, it’s not you it’s the bitterness coming out.

You may have a good reason to be bitter, something was unfair, but holding on to it is only going to make it worst. steal your dreams, rub off your joy, bitterness can keep you from your destiny.

There are some people that are bitter over what happened 30 years ago, bitter because they were mistreated growing up, bitter because a relationship didn’t work out, you have to let it go, God see’s what’s happening, He knows what was not fair, He knows who walked away, and He knows how to make it up to you. He knows how to bring you up better.

Let it go, and trust Him to be your Vindicator.

The longer you hold on, the harder it is to get rid of.

The more you dwell on it, the more you re-live it, the more you let it bother you, the deeper it gets planted.

The key is Forgive Quickly.

Let go of things you don’t understand quickly.

When the questions come, “why did this happen? This is unfair”. When you feel the bitterness take rout right then, “God I’m turning this over to you, I know your my Vindicator, I know you make my wrongs right, you said you’ll give me beauty to this ashes”.

Bitterness is always knocking at the door. Just like someone says something to try to make you look bad to other people, just a little offense, just a small seed. If you ignore it no big deal. but if you start dwelling on it, start thinking how you can pay them back then that little seed will begin to take root and before long it will grow and pollute other areas of your life.

That’s why it’s said in Hebrews, “Make sure there’s no root of bitterness springs fort and causes trouble and many become contaminated by it”.

Notice it refers to Bitterness as a root, of course you can’t see the root. It’s hidden on the ground, but a bitter root, produces bitter fruit.

If you have a root of bitterness it will contaminate your life.

Proverbs says “guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life”.

One of our most important responsibilities, is to keep our hearts  pure.

Life is too short to live offended, not forgiving, bitter over what didn’t worked out. 

We have to guard our hearts,  it’s easy to let what’s on the outside get on the inside.

It takes discipline to say “I’m not going to dwell on that offense”, “I’m not going to go around feeling sorry for myself for something that did not work out”,

We only have so much emotional energy each day, It’s not an unlimited supply, holding on to a grudge is wasting valuable energy that keep you from your dreams, your goals, your destiny.

Quit letting what’s on the outside get on the inside.

Start guarding your heart. 💕

_Joel Osteen

Black is never boring

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Black is never boring. It can be mysterious, outstanding, fascinating, glamorous and beautiful. Even all of this adjectives may never be enough to define the characteristic of black.

Love other colors but black is my personal favorite, you can never go wrong with it, In a outfit and I think it’s such a classy sexy color that when done can actually make everybody say “wow”.

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All black outfit tied up with natural make up is the slay secrete.

Can even paired up with other different outfits any actually will do, and tip is to wear it with confidence!
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Keep it cool! keep it simple! wear BLACK, because it’s never boring.